It can be very hard to express difficult feelings with family and friends. We may worry about what they will think of us or if we will upset them. Often we don't want to 'burden' others with our problems. But in the midst of all this, there is a real need to feel better, and to do this, we need to be able to explore our feelings openly and honestly - to tell our story in a whole-hearted way.
We have certain fundamental needs that must be met in order for us to grow and flourish and feel good about ourselves; most importantly, the need to be accepted and loved for who we are. In our earlier lives, we may have made adjustments to how we felt, thought or acted in order to fit in. These adjustments to ourselves may have served us well at the time, but may now be causing us difficulties. These difficulties can arise because the 'masks' that we create in order to foster the positive regard of others, run contrary to our need to be loved for who we are and stifle our intrinsic drive to be the best, truest forms of ourselves.
It may only be at times of emotional upheaval that we become aware of feelings of sadness, shame and anger, such as when we suffer a bereavement or face bullying or stress at work, but we may be just as likely to experience them with the passing of time if we have issues that are unresolved.
Counselling and Psychotherapy seeks to provide the client with an environment of acceptance and empathy, somewhere you can feel safe to explore feelings in an uninhibited way, whilst being supported in an authentic, respectful and non-judgemental way. This honest in-depth exploration can lead to new awareness. This enhanced awareness can help us be mindful of the choices we have made and gives us the opportunity to choose to do something different as well as leading us towards a greater tolerance of life's experiences.
At the heart of the therapy is the relationship that is forged between counsellor and client. It is the vehicle for experience, growth and change. We talk about people needing the 'right' environment in order to fulfil their potential and flourish, and in terms of counselling, the 'right' environment is the 'right' relationship. There is a great vulnerability in exposing all parts of ourselves 'warts and all' and although it is incredibly worthwhile if it can lead to awareness, acceptance and integration, it requires a safe, trusting, mutual therapeutic relationship. At Harborough Counselling, this is what I strive to provide.
Harborough Counselling is based in Foxton, a peaceful, village setting close to Market Harborough and is easily accessible from South Leicestershire and North Northants. There is off road parking and daytime or evening appointments to suit.
Free initial consultation.
The price for a fifty minute session is £40.